Bread Crumbing Reprint*

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10 SIGNS YOUR PARTNER IS BREADCRUMBING YOU

1. THEY SEND SPORADIC MESSAGES
Are you get­ting mes­sages from them every once in a while, but not con­sis­tent­ly? You might be get­ting bread­crumbed if you’re not get­ting con­sis­tent com­mu­ni­ca­tion with them. They send you a mes­sage every cou­ple of days, but only on their terms because “their ego is ful­filled when they reach out to you after months and you accept­ed their pre­vi­ous behav­ior and con­tin­ue in a cycle of a dis-sat­is­fac­to­ry rela­tion­ship. Your ego, on the oth­er hand, begins to take a hit to your self-esteem,” says behav­ioral sci­en­tist and rela­tion­ship expert Clarissa Silva.

2. THE MESSAGES ARE MEANINGLESS
Sure, some­times they send you mes­sages that have some sub­stance, but usu­al­ly it’s just a mes­sage that says “what are you up to?” or “what’s up?” The mes­sages lack sub­stance and are just there to pull you back in when you feel like they’re drift­ing away.

3. THE MESSAGES ARE VAGUE
They always seem to have a vague mes­sage to them, but you nev­er real­ly know what they mean. They say that you should hang out soon, but nev­er make con­crete plans. This is a red flag that you’re being strung along by some­one who is bread­crumb­ing you.

4. THEY JUST WANT TO HOOK UP
When some­one is bread­crumb­ing you, it’s prob­a­bly because they want to hook up with­out any com­mit­ment. “Sometimes the bread­crumb­ing hap­pens due to cir­cum­stances in someone’s life and they have no idea that they are doing it. Other times, some­one is just not ready for a com­mit­ment,” says psy­chol­o­gist and rela­tion­ship expert Dr. Jennifer Rhodes.

“Maybe the rela­tion­ship start­ed out great, you went out togeth­er, and had fun, but now you only hang out for late night hap­py hour and a quick­ie after­ward. Don’t fool your­self: It isn’t a real rela­tion­ship. They just want to see you once in a while for one rea­son, and you’re not they only one they’re doing this to,” says rela­tion­ship expert April Davis.

When you do see each oth­er, it’s usu­al­ly to get phys­i­cal­ly inti­mate pret­ty quick­ly. If you notice your part­ner is all about hook­ing up, this might be a red flag.

5. THEY’RE NONCOMMITTAL
You can’t seem to pin them down for any­thing. They even like to pull the “I don’t like labels” line. While that may be true, it’s prob­a­bly more like­ly that they’re bread­crumb­ing you. This is usu­al­ly com­bined with spo­radic mes­sages and always want­i­ng to hook up.

Breadcrumbers “… com­mu­ni­cate via spo­radic non­com­mit­tal, but repeat­ed mes­sages — or bread­crumbs — that are just enough to keep you won­der­ing but not enough to seal the deal (what­ev­er that deal may be). Breadcrumbers check in con­sis­tent­ly with a roman­tic prospect, but nev­er set up a date,” says author Jessica Bennett.

6. YOU DON’T FEEL GOOD
When you get a mes­sage, you don’t exact­ly feel good about it. Maybe there’s the ini­tial excite­ment of get­ting in con­tact, but after­wards you start to feel not so great about it. Your heart is rac­ing and you may feel anx­i­ety about the next time they’re going to con­tact you.

7. YOU’RE WONDERING WHAT YOU DID WRONG
Every time you can’t seem to get ahold of them, or every time there’s a long peri­od of time between mes­sages, you’re left won­der­ing just what you did wrong. Of course, it was nev­er any­thing you did wrong in the first place, but the feel­ing still won’t leave.

8. THEY ALWAYS SEEM TO KNOW JUST WHEN YOU’RE GETTING OVER THEM
While it’s not psy­chic abil­i­ties, it’s prob­a­bly keep­ing up with your social media.

“When you’ve final­ly giv­en up hope, the bread­crum­ber psy­chi­cal­ly sens­es your absence. Suddenly, they resur­face. Now, the game begins again with more flat­tery and allur­ing bait… also known as the bread­crumbs,” adds Winter.

Therefore, if it seems like you’re start­ing to leave them behind, the bread­crum­ber will tend to reach out to you to make sure that you remem­ber them. It can eas­i­ly draw you right back in.

9. LATE NIGHT TEXTS
All day long they had the oppor­tu­ni­ty to send you a mes­sage, but they seem to always send you some­thing late at night. 2 am, 3 am, or lat­er, even. It’s always a mes­sage ask­ing what you’re doing, as if you’re not lying in bed try­ing to get to sleep. This is usu­al­ly an excuse to make sure that you’re think­ing of them even when they’re not think­ing of you.

“Remember, he doesn’t actu­al­ly want you – he sim­ply wants to play. This new method is tox­ic and suf­fo­cat­ing because it turns a tease into con­fu­sion and heartache. You don’t need to know that you’re being thought of at 4am. You need to be thought of at 4pm – when the sun is still up,” says pub­lish­er and styl­ist Stacey O’Keeffe.

10. PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE
If your part­ner seems to always get pas­sive aggres­sive or manip­u­la­tive when you try to con­front them about bread­crumb­ing you, it’s prob­a­bly a sign that they’re doing just that “because bread­crumb­ing is pas­sive-aggres­sive behav­ior,” says rela­tion­ship coun­sel­lor and Gestalt ther­a­pist Clinton Power.

People who get defen­sive and pas­sive aggres­sive about their own behav­ior prob­a­bly just don’t want to be called out about it.

Final thoughts

Being on the oth­er end of bread­crumb­ing can be frus­trat­ing. If often makes a per­son feel a lit­tle worth­less and depressed, since they can’t under­stand why they’re not worth someone’s whole com­mit­ment. But, if you find your­self on the oth­er end of bread­crumb­ing, you’ll be able to rec­og­nize the signs.

Call them out on their bad behavior.

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