Set your rules, Internet Engagement

Set your rules.

It is extreme­ly impor­tant that you as a per­son set your rules. What does it mean to set your rules when par­tic­i­pat­ing on the inter­net, on boards, on alter­na­tive sites? What does it mean to set your rules, as a Gorean?

The era that we live in today is rad­i­cal­ly dif­fer­ent than any­thing we have ever seen, or even so wit­nessed. Its class of social media, opin­ion­at­ed news, and destroy­ing peo­ple with mis­in­ter­pret­ed, and manip­u­lat­ed half truths has begun. Freedom of speech is becom­ing a rar­i­ty on the inter­net, at your work place, and with­in your social cir­cles. Some folks will tell you to live your life open­ly and trans­par­ent­ly as pos­si­ble, and while that has some truth sur­round­ing it, there is also is a fish lure care­ful­ly, and manip­u­la­tive­ly set by unsta­ble peo­ple who you have nev­er met.

They have only read you. They don’t know you, they only per­ceive to. They gath­er, and impress what they think you are, and deter­mine by their own “fill in the blanks” minds how to relate to you. They spend their days try­ing to learn you and your life in a intru­sive, and cal­cu­lat­ed fash­ion should you place your­self in a vis­i­ble posi­tion enough to catch the atten­tion of these folks. There are many rea­sons why they use dif­fer­ent tools to man­age to fol­low us, or to emu­late who we are. They are enti­tled to their opin­ions, their feel­ings, but unfor­tu­nate­ly in their imma­tu­ri­ty they are not capa­ble of allow­ing the same of oth­ers. Its sim­ply all about them. Its very dif­fi­cult to deal with peo­ple that are not whole inside, and that come with this new age rage, and unfor­tu­nate lack of boundaries.

Set your rules.

First, your Strength. This is the strength of liv­ing freely, and mak­ing choic­es as a nat­ur­al habit. Your strength holds your moral­i­ty, abil­i­ty to build, your pride in home, and earn­ing a liv­ing, and of course anchors your fam­i­ly. People who are unwell are sim­ply and com­plete­ly jeal­ous of those who stand on their strength. They are envied, and feared, and worse folks want to find oth­ers to stand with them to tear them down. After all if they aren’t strong, how can we be. How do those of us who remain find the strength to live our lives in a healthy, advanc­ing way?

We set our rules, we build our foun­da­tions, we breath. Gor is not hard for Goreans.

We have con­trolled who we allow through the doors of our homes, and into our lives. Many of us have tried to main­tain this stan­dard online. We decide who is part of our activ­i­ties, our choic­es, and our fam­i­lies. It is espe­cial­ly impor­tant that peo­ple liv­ing under the Gorean ethos pro­tect their fam­i­lies, espe­cial­ly the chil­dren. Children have no con­trol over their envi­ron­ment, or those with­in it. Children need to be busy being kids, not mon­i­tor­ing adults, or wor­ry­ing about us. You see, chil­dren sim­ply do not have the abil­i­ty to process infor­ma­tion as we do, there­fore, Goreans who under­stand strength know bet­ter than to allow chil­dren into adult issues, or otherwise.

Set your rules.

Secondly,  Be Transparent,  to those we know to be like us. Many of us who have lived, and con­tin­ue to live a nat­ur­al life have nev­er hid who, or what we are. Not to our fam­i­ly, not to friends, sim­ply not any­where. However some of us have paid high prices in online venues for believ­ing and trust­ing peo­ple that have ill inten­tions towards our well being. For exam­ple, it has come to my atten­tion through a few sources that some­one in a kink com­mu­ni­ty has been try­ing to find out my real name, my home address, where I work, and what I real­ly do. I am cer­tain­ly aware of the con­se­quences peo­ple face when they try to push into some­ones life unin­vit­ed. I am not quite sure why a stranger would find it of val­ue to want to know infor­ma­tion about me when we have nev­er met, and nev­er spo­ken in real­i­ty. We share no sim­i­lar moral­i­ty, nor do we share lifestyle.

Remember folks, ensure you are attract­ing peo­ple who car­ry the same moral val­ue, ethics, bound­aries, and decen­cy you car­ry. Being trans­par­ent has nev­er meant shar­ing your­self with mass­es of unsta­ble, odd, pos­si­bly men­tal folks on the inter­net. It sim­ply means vet­ting who you allow in your life, and enjoy­ing gath­er­ing with peo­ple of high mer­it and stan­dards. Most peo­ple nev­er even real­ize the dif­fer­ence between a Gorean, and a per­son who does not live with­in the ethos on the street, or even a gro­cery store. Goreans do not run around in leather, chains walk­ing women, or the voyeuris­tic actions you often see with sex­u­al­ly charged alter­na­tive and some­times even dan­ger­ous sex­u­al lifestyles. Goreans are sim­ply who they are with­out the cos­tumes and acting.

Set your rules.

Third, When peo­ple show you who they are the very first time, absolute­ly believe them. Gone are the days we can have a mutu­al com­mu­ni­ty trust of peo­ple. Folks no longer hold church, com­mu­ni­ty, employ­ment,  and rela­tion­ships to a base stan­dard. In this new world every­one is free to be who they want to be, regard­less of the sac­ri­fices, or the con­se­quences that these things car­ry. What the new world does­n’t real­ize yet is sim­ply this.

Freedom is not free. People who are valid, and com­plete cit­i­zens of their coun­try, province, state real­ize being a cit­i­zen has respon­si­bil­i­ty. Folks we don’t know, who have spent time, try­ing to fig­ure out how we live have mis­tak­en­ly thought that we are respon­si­ble for them as well. That because they type a top­ic, or type they hold a title we are com­pelled to stand with them. We are not. Perhaps this action is the most damn­ing of all. With the new world peo­ple they use our own moral­i­ty to attack us. Rather than spend their cur­ren­cy under­stand­ing how to build their own foun­da­tions,  they spend it try­ing to be some­thing they are not. I believe this is why so many folks are filled with sheer anger, and rage as they seek out to destroy any­thing they can not, or will not under­stand. Again, when peo­ple show you who they are, the first time; Believe them.

I could demon­strate with this writ­ing the many ratios, and num­bers that show about what is going on in this world today by preda­tor behav­ior on the inter­net, stalk­ing, bul­ly­ing in the work­place. All the new fan­cy words and creepy manip­u­la­tive tools folks now use as Institutes to house us into their think­ing. But per­haps the les­son in set­ting your own rules is dis­cov­er­ing just exact­ly what the rules are, and what they mean to you, and your fam­i­ly. A man very close to me once said, per­haps its OK to share more about this ethos with peo­ple. Give them the answers, open the doors. I dis­agree, with­out the lessons of build­ing a home, a foun­da­tion, a clear and present line of ethics peo­ple for­get that there is joy in the work it takes to learn some­thing beau­ti­ful, and to under­stand it so com­plete­ly its like breathing.

Set your rules.

 

Nyre

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