Set your rules.
It is extremely important that you as a person set your rules. What does it mean to set your rules when participating on the internet, on boards, on alternative sites? What does it mean to set your rules, as a Gorean?
The era that we live in today is radically different than anything we have ever seen, or even so witnessed. Its class of social media, opinionated news, and destroying people with misinterpreted, and manipulated half truths has begun. Freedom of speech is becoming a rarity on the internet, at your work place, and within your social circles. Some folks will tell you to live your life openly and transparently as possible, and while that has some truth surrounding it, there is also is a fish lure carefully, and manipulatively set by unstable people who you have never met.
They have only read you. They don’t know you, they only perceive to. They gather, and impress what they think you are, and determine by their own “fill in the blanks” minds how to relate to you. They spend their days trying to learn you and your life in a intrusive, and calculated fashion should you place yourself in a visible position enough to catch the attention of these folks. There are many reasons why they use different tools to manage to follow us, or to emulate who we are. They are entitled to their opinions, their feelings, but unfortunately in their immaturity they are not capable of allowing the same of others. Its simply all about them. Its very difficult to deal with people that are not whole inside, and that come with this new age rage, and unfortunate lack of boundaries.
Set your rules.
First, your Strength. This is the strength of living freely, and making choices as a natural habit. Your strength holds your morality, ability to build, your pride in home, and earning a living, and of course anchors your family. People who are unwell are simply and completely jealous of those who stand on their strength. They are envied, and feared, and worse folks want to find others to stand with them to tear them down. After all if they aren’t strong, how can we be. How do those of us who remain find the strength to live our lives in a healthy, advancing way?
We set our rules, we build our foundations, we breath. Gor is not hard for Goreans.
We have controlled who we allow through the doors of our homes, and into our lives. Many of us have tried to maintain this standard online. We decide who is part of our activities, our choices, and our families. It is especially important that people living under the Gorean ethos protect their families, especially the children. Children have no control over their environment, or those within it. Children need to be busy being kids, not monitoring adults, or worrying about us. You see, children simply do not have the ability to process information as we do, therefore, Goreans who understand strength know better than to allow children into adult issues, or otherwise.
Set your rules.
Secondly, Be Transparent, to those we know to be like us. Many of us who have lived, and continue to live a natural life have never hid who, or what we are. Not to our family, not to friends, simply not anywhere. However some of us have paid high prices in online venues for believing and trusting people that have ill intentions towards our well being. For example, it has come to my attention through a few sources that someone in a kink community has been trying to find out my real name, my home address, where I work, and what I really do. I am certainly aware of the consequences people face when they try to push into someones life uninvited. I am not quite sure why a stranger would find it of value to want to know information about me when we have never met, and never spoken in reality. We share no similar morality, nor do we share lifestyle.
Remember folks, ensure you are attracting people who carry the same moral value, ethics, boundaries, and decency you carry. Being transparent has never meant sharing yourself with masses of unstable, odd, possibly mental folks on the internet. It simply means vetting who you allow in your life, and enjoying gathering with people of high merit and standards. Most people never even realize the difference between a Gorean, and a person who does not live within the ethos on the street, or even a grocery store. Goreans do not run around in leather, chains walking women, or the voyeuristic actions you often see with sexually charged alternative and sometimes even dangerous sexual lifestyles. Goreans are simply who they are without the costumes and acting.
Set your rules.
Third, When people show you who they are the very first time, absolutely believe them. Gone are the days we can have a mutual community trust of people. Folks no longer hold church, community, employment, and relationships to a base standard. In this new world everyone is free to be who they want to be, regardless of the sacrifices, or the consequences that these things carry. What the new world doesn’t realize yet is simply this.
Freedom is not free. People who are valid, and complete citizens of their country, province, state realize being a citizen has responsibility. Folks we don’t know, who have spent time, trying to figure out how we live have mistakenly thought that we are responsible for them as well. That because they type a topic, or type they hold a title we are compelled to stand with them. We are not. Perhaps this action is the most damning of all. With the new world people they use our own morality to attack us. Rather than spend their currency understanding how to build their own foundations, they spend it trying to be something they are not. I believe this is why so many folks are filled with sheer anger, and rage as they seek out to destroy anything they can not, or will not understand. Again, when people show you who they are, the first time; Believe them.
I could demonstrate with this writing the many ratios, and numbers that show about what is going on in this world today by predator behavior on the internet, stalking, bullying in the workplace. All the new fancy words and creepy manipulative tools folks now use as Institutes to house us into their thinking. But perhaps the lesson in setting your own rules is discovering just exactly what the rules are, and what they mean to you, and your family. A man very close to me once said, perhaps its OK to share more about this ethos with people. Give them the answers, open the doors. I disagree, without the lessons of building a home, a foundation, a clear and present line of ethics people forget that there is joy in the work it takes to learn something beautiful, and to understand it so completely its like breathing.
Set your rules.
Nyre
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“Goreans are simply who they are without the costumes and acting”.
I really wish more people would understand this – so many who perform as clowns in their own circuses of conceit, or pantomimes of pretence.
Indeed, as I discovered recently, when you point out peoples ‘error’ regarding the most basic of Gorean things, instead of acceptance, or agreement, you meet only ‘silence’ instead.
Pride, and foolish ego, far outweigh ‘moral integity’, for SOME.
For this reason, I now tend to agree with you my friend. Better to move on, and let them live with their INabilities, and foolish beliefs.
They may continue to fool each other – but NOT genuine Goreans.