It Starts Now

Hello Everyone!

I have finally found some time to write, and come back to these amazing boards! Over the last month I have had an incredibly busy schedule, and many wonderful changes in my life. Happy Thanksgiving to the Canadian sort!

For a number of years I have been very content to be part of various online venues that have carried the Gorean ethos. Whether it was a board, e-magazine, or alternative websites I found great value to be an e-journalist, essay contributor and a leader in these communities always promoting freedom as my personal choice as a woman. From the very beginning of my own path years ago on a little net called Dalnet to today here at Circle of Steel, I have no regrets.

I have met people in my city, outside my country, across the ocean, and have made life long friends through this journey. I had a chance to work through, and hone my own morality that built me to who I am today. During all of this I raised two amazing boys into college educated men, built an incredibly successful business that I sold a few years ago, built my own brand new home from scratch a couple years back, bought a gorgeous and very fast car, had a chance to watch first hand my beloved Formula One cars race listening to those engines roar, and so much more! My life although not always easy has checked off some amazing lists! Still much more to come for Old Nyre!

Today I want to talk about my last experiences participating at an alternative board. You see, it was this last experience that opened my eyes to a brand new kind of folk, and change within social media, society, and what we are seeing splayed in our media now. Falsely charging people, lying, hysterical opinionated media and humiliation tactics have become an everyday staple in our world. To begin, I was invited by someone very close to my life to come to the board originally, talk about Gorean things, and be part of a world many of us have loved deeply. I was told that very few women were able to understand what freedom looked like, or even lived like within Gorean ethos. Given I have only lived my life by these principals it was easy for me to feel I had a voice to share in this collective.

Very quickly I realized from multiple personal conversations I was dealing with a very different, and confusing situation. Besides the women, who often would fall under the blanket of freedom as a disguise only, there were deep and dark issues within the community itself, particularly with the men, who were supposed to being leading. Many of the men within Gorean slated groups, who purported to be single, or available came with a very new set of issues. Three of them had a litany of convicted offenses in multiple States that ranged from theft, to assault, to robbery. Another of the men, openly, and unashamed made fun of a woman he stole from before running from the law to Alaska. Of course there was a professional in the group who was in a field that included travel. He spent his days using his words like “Jihad” in groups, and against people for amusement and fear. Of course, and last, there was that one guy overseas who claimed he was some Black-ops dude that spent his days saving people across the world. Seemingly people for the most overlooked all of these flags from these fellows.

Folks for the most part simply shrugged, and felt that everyone was flawed, and who was anyone to judge who, or what they had factually done? They wanted to belong, to be part of something, even if that something meant selling themselves out for acceptance. They found flaws to bind them together. Some were divorced men, who had to pay child support, and wives bitterly. One fellow was a raging dude who had been on boards for years, and decided he could feel safe to title himself a sadist. Others lived on welfare and barely could afford to feed themselves. It was very difficult to witness the different aspects on this board for me. As a woman who worked multiple jobs to make ends meet, found ways to make the bills, became creative to manage my house, never broke the law, never had a criminal incident in my life, nor even dated people that were involved in that kind of life, it was hard for me to see folks who would not help themselves, yet called themselves Gorean. Heck as a tax paying business owner, and citizen in great standing in not one country but two (I am a Canadian, and a European luckily holding two very valid passports) I didn’t realize that Gorean places hoarded, or even hide these kind of people in their ranks.

Slowly, as I started to write on these matters, voiced over and over my thoughts, and hoped for women out there to know there was more to life than this small pocket of under-achievers, and “less than leadership” in men.  I wanted women to vet, to know who they were speaking to, to research who they were coming into contact with. Simply, that being part of an alternative lifestyle did not require them to pick from less than, the leftovers, the last holdouts of these men. They could choose no. I certainly know my posts, and voicing on these matters was loud, and repetitive. For a number of years, I remained on this site in hopes that my words, articles, and messages might impact even one person through their personal roads. I have no doubt that my loud, overdone, over and over again postings did just that.  I myself once faced a stalker from a number of years ago that attempted to impact my life. Given the severity of this incident I was given so much support and help from the Calgary Police, women’s groups, and still am very active within that scope of people in my community.

Back to my point, about a month ago the same person who invited me to come to the site in the beginning came back to speak to me personally about my work. More specifically my time, and who I was as a person on this alternative site. It was the clarity brought to me from this person,  a fresh opinion of “what was I still doing here, and what was I achieving?” that resonated with me. They felt my time was well spent, that I had done enough. I was overwhelmed by the generosity, and support of this person. Finally, they offered me something I simply could not refuse.  They offered that if I wanted to leave the boards they were here for specifically me, further to help me do just that, leave. Friendship, leadership, and approval of this person who stood the wall for me and gave me the strength to evaluate there was very little left within a community sealed my decision. What remained was only activity revolving around a guy who only had the wherefore all to argue with some kink community dude in Canada. That dude simply spent his time stealing other peoples work that had been done years prior. Sad stuff, that.

I hadn’t thought to leave, or even end my stay within this board, but evaluating the false news, the lack of change, the inability to form a community with the last folks within the program, I took the opportunity to leave. Please know there was “no one specific incident” that made me leave, no silliness, no trauma, no one stalking me, no one forcing me to go. I am in excellent health, still living my life successfully, and absolutely having fun in the field of Law, getting to understand security, and welfare of people, having fun at court, enjoying my own business, and being so grateful for my own career goals.  Gang, I am really doing great, honestly, thank you so much for all the email. I really love the support and generous time you took out to speak to me. It is the very reason, I felt to write about my personal decision today.

It is and has always been my opinion that trying to build on theft, and lies will crumble the foundation of anything.  The fellow left there on the board who is utilizing social media for his rants really is sad. His facts are unchecked, his information untrue, his comments, false news. It is my opinion to state that if women are engaging with him that they get a background check on him, and spend the time necessary to vet him. Just as I encourage any woman going into an alternative lifestyle to do. Vetting, finding out who you are with is a personal responsibly. Please do take it seriously. Gift yourselves ladies with knowledge.

Besides the group of criminals, this guy above from a different kink, there were a few other detailing facts for me to consider. One of the largest packs of information I was informed about came from the IRC program that a friend spends time within. It was about a woman who posted as a Gorean with children on her site. I was absolutely shocked to see it was true when I went to the site myself. She had nude people, plus a child side by side. Further, there was an email for the child, and instructions that you could correspond with the minor should you so choose. I personally was not a friend to the person, nor really knew anyone who dealt with her, so I decided to simply put up a non naming warning about the fact on the alternative board that folks who engage children in alternative lifestyles should be weary of what they are doing. As with all things, many folks knew about her actions, and several folks within her own group reported her to a variety of services. I don’t live in the country this person resides, and really didn’t feel I had the ability to do anything other than relate a single safety message through the boards. 

Given her actions, the actions of a man beating up a girl, and claiming people forged his criminal past(Seriously laughable-its available online), a dude who stole from a handicap person all her last money from government support to start his life in Alaska, and many more unsavory folks I felt, and still feel a person of standing like me in my own community, career, and family was suffocating in this environment. I feel, and will continue to believe that John Norman would not want folks who love his work to be in environments that are toxic. After all, Gorean ethos was always created to be beautiful.

On a different note, I was so blessed to meet and chat with a number of honest, decent people on this site that had families like me, but smartly refused to be part of the Gorean community on this alternative board, because of these crazy people I’ve spoken about, above. I still know and chat to several Gorean men remaining on the site, they attempt to educate and stand the last remnants of the wall. But sadly for the most part folks simply banned, ignored, removed these people from their groups. One set of folks even set forth to watch-dogging them, and making fun of them in their group. The owner of that group is a lovely woman on the West Coast, who I absolutely loved chatting with.

I also was incredibly proud to open a group of my own, and run it for a number of years called, “The Art of Being a Woman” which was hard for me to leave behind. The women in this group, and myself never had a single issue, or attack within the group once. Several of the leaders of this group absolutely have my heart, and I really wish I could have stayed, and spend time hearing how their lives were going. I know this group will live on and that women will find their way to these beautiful girls, and that it will enhance their growth on this board being part of these smart, bright, and talented women.

Even though there was such a dark aspect to this alternative site, there is also such a wonderful and beautiful part to the site. There are people who have value, are worthy, want to engage appropriately, and find the most amazing things within the program.

Finally, just as the topic of this personal essay states, It Starts Now, and it truly does for me. I will be writing on this forum, spending my time on currency that will merit valuable friendships, and continue to live my life as I have always lived, as a great citizen, a great daughter, a lovely mum, a student, a learner, a builder, and a leader. It is and will always be my deepest wish women who want to be part of this Philosophy will vet, background check, educate themselves on those they allow in their circle. It is and will always be my standard that being involved with people who do not understand the law, boundaries, or respect the natural order are not capable of leading. If men are incapable of leading, they have failed.

 

Nyre

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