Your True Nature; Women of Gorean Ethos

What is your true nature as a woman, where do you best develop? 

In order to under­stand where you feel best suits your char­ac­ter, your moral­i­ty you must eval­u­ate your­self as a woman.  Within the Gorean ethos it is intrin­si­cal­ly impor­tant in any growth regard­ing your per­son­al jour­ney to under­stand who you are, and how you pros­per. Where you need to go in life and espe­cial­ly how to dis­cov­er what your body and mind requires for a ful­filled life is so impor­tant. You owe it to your­self, and the rela­tion­ships you par­tic­i­pate in to know you. It seems weird to say, Hey you, do I know you? But frankly, as a woman in the Gorean ethos, that is exact­ly what you need to do to find the real you.

It is a truth today that many women strug­gle to define them­selves among the noise of our world. This fact is not news for women. Since the very begin­ning of time we have spent our emo­tion­al selves out try­ing to fig­ure out where we belong, and with whom. Earlier in his­to­ry these details of our lives were deter­mined by fathers, by fam­i­ly his­to­ries, by sta­tus and birthright. As our world began to for­give and slow­ly unclasp the hon­orifics of our begin­nings we, women under the blan­ket of new soci­etal free­doms began to get lost with­in the many choic­es availed to us. Birthright, social breed­ing, and sta­tus in soci­ety have become a dis­tant past. To be clear, the loss was not just gen­der spe­cif­ic, men too have found strug­gles in how to place them­selves in lead­er­ship roles, in how to be fathers, hus­bands, sup­port­ers to a fam­i­ly plan that no longer holds val­ue in a way we have seen in our past histories.

In order for women to be true to their nature with­in the ethos of Gorean ideals, there must be men that are equal­ly true to their nature, a bal­ance. Both gen­ders are entwined to each oth­er. It is how humans have been bio­log­i­cal­ly built, in oth­er words, always meant to be because of our very nature. Norman used biol­o­gy through his his­tor­i­cal research and his role as Philosopher. He called it Gor, we call it liv­ing to our nat­ur­al self.

(On a side note, I do know that in today’s world that gen­der, sex­u­al ori­en­ta­tions are far more open than the con­stric­tion of men vs women. This arti­cle is not for those who eval­u­ate them­selves as trans-gen­dered, same gen­der cou­ples. This arti­cle focus­es on those who choose a female to male ratio in rela­tion­ships under the ethos of Gorean Philosophy.)

First you must under­stand the posi­tions women in this ethos are offered are by choice, con­sent. Goreans do not believe in the slav­ery you see in our world today. No one involved as a Gorean is inter­est­ed or val­ues steal­ing a human being against their will, harm­ing them, or forc­ing them to be some­thing they are not. This is incred­i­bly and extreme­ly impor­tant to note. People that spend their resources in sex trades, ille­gal behav­ior with the detri­ment of women in mind, and are will­ing to com­mit hor­ri­ble crime are not wel­come in Normans world. In fact their best address is prison, under the laws of the land.

Goreans believe in “com­mit­ted, with promis­es and vows rela­tion­ships” that have a deep­er under­stand­ing of nat­ur­al order, and biol­o­gy between the two sex­es. In issu­ing this dec­la­ra­tion in these rela­tion­ships the women and men involved are able and will­ing to choose freely where, and who they are with­in the Philosophy. They con­sent, and choose.

The fic­tion of slave blocks, and women being sold on the black mar­kets against their will is part of the nov­els that Norman cre­at­ed but it is fic­tion, not a real­i­ty for Goreans to live. It was used to demon­strate a fic­tion­al plan­et, that none of us live on, nor believe it exists. Sexually deter­mined fan­ta­sy groups that insist that kink, sadism, BDSM, leather men, and oth­er sex­u­al­ly charged group­ing should be or are con­sis­tent with the ethos are not accu­rate. Gor does not accept sadism at all, by Normans hand.

A free woman uses three key ele­ments in her free­dom,  mod­esty, respect, and cour­tesy. She is a cit­i­zen, and she car­ries respon­si­bil­i­ties under her cloak of free­dom. She doesn’t shame­less­ly show­er her sex­u­al­i­ty, or needs open­ly. She con­ceals her pri­vate thoughts to her com­pan­ion, or her house­hold. She is a leader in her own right, and thus able to move between sit­u­a­tions that demand of her. Her occu­pa­tion if nec­es­sary would not be sex­u­al in ori­en­ta­tion, it would rep­re­sent a woman of  mod­esty, and respect. She isn’t run­ning around the world veiled up in cos­tumes, and fic­ti­tious role play. Her veil is her mod­esty and it is relayed in respect earned, and cour­tesy giv­en due to her sta­tion as a free woman. She isn’t the girl who would find an alley to have sex in. Shes worth more than that. To have a woman like her, a com­mit­ment would be required, vows, and promis­es would need to be made to her fam­i­ly to ensure her well being. She isn’t hid­ing behind role play wait­ing secret­ly for her love mas­ter, hop­ing not to serve oth­ers. She is free in all aspects, and demon­strates this free­dom appro­pri­ate­ly in pri­vate con­ver­sa­tions with men, and pub­licly as a role model.

Men do not doubt her free­dom, they are cer­tain she is indeed free. No secrets are shared between oth­er men of her secret trysts. She is true to her nature, her nat­ur­al free­dom. Her intel­li­gence, her patience, are val­ued. She is a lady, and all around her know it by her mere pres­ence. The class in which she demon­strates as a lady is felt. Her abil­i­ty to be part of a Gorean home based on the ethos is a giv­en. She has no hatred for prop­er­ty, in fact if it is the plea­sure of her com­pan­ion to own, she throws her entire weight and sup­port behind him lov­ing­ly, and open­ly. She too learns man­age­ment of prop­er­ty by his lead, his suc­cess­es. After all she is as much a com­pan­ion and his, as her com­pan­ion is hers.

This com­pan­ion­ship as you can see below in the text is dif­fer­ent than any­thing we have expe­ri­enced out­side the Gorean ethos. Perhaps that is why so many women and men are bit­ter, and in pain. They are not allowed to be who, and what they were meant to be.

Goreans on the oth­er hand are con­tent, and loved.

“How dif­fer­ent are the rela­tion­ships of the men of Earth with women. On Gor I see, on the whole, con­tent­ment and love; on the Earth I see, on the whole, dis­con­tent­ment and mis­ery. Who shall say which is best? Perhaps dis­con­tent­ment and mis­ery are supe­rior to con­tent­ment and love. Who knows? Goreans, how­ever, we might note, what­ever be the truth in these mat­ters, have cho­sen con­tent­ment, and love. Let each choose, per­haps, that which is best for him.” John Norman

As you can see, a prime direc­tive of Gorean ethos, is to choose your­self what state you live in emo­tion­al­ly, and how your rela­tion­ship will look. Its always been a choice.

A kaji­ra embod­ies two objec­tives that she must whol­ly accept, and cer­tain­ly demon­strate dai­ly. First to exem­pli­fy beau­ty, and sec­ond­ly to be com­plete­ly obe­di­ent. She is prop­er­ty mean­ing she has no sta­tus, nor cit­i­zen­ship oth­er than being owned at the plea­sure of a Gorean. She is com­plete­ly owned by her con­sent every­day and in that own­er­ship she will do any­thing to please, she will be eager to serve. Every day she has the right to remove con­sent, and say no. She is a kaji­ra by her own choice. She is open­ly sex­u­al, she is not afraid to show her sex­u­al­i­ty at any giv­en time, as she is inca­pable of con­trol­ling her needs in the pres­ence of strong Gorean men. She is not even per­mit­ted “the con­trol or to hide her sex­u­al needs”.

Now giv­en that many spent time in online forums, I will address these con­di­tions as well. The role play of women who con­sent to being kaji­ra in online medi­ums,  some­times demon­strate feign­ing arro­gance, mis­be­hav­ing, argu­ing with the free, being rude, mouthing peo­ple who trav­el through var­i­ous chat loca­tions, this behav­ior is all fic­tion.  Those girls who argue, spend pre­cious and valu­able time whin­ing and com­plain­ing about what oth­ers say or don’t say aren’t invest­ed in a real­i­ty of con­sent­ing sur­ren­der.  These women fraud­u­lent­ly hide in the role play of either being a free woman wait­ing for their per­fect love Masters, or they are a mar­ried woman who wants to par­tic­i­pate in cyber­sex while her hus­band in real­i­ty is not avail­able or work­ing, or she is dis­abled to the point she can not become a real­i­ty based kaji­ra, there fore she can only type it. These gals are seri­ous­ly folks who play online only much like a video game. It would be far eas­i­er if they sim­ply stat­ed they were role play­ing, rather than liv­ing the ethos in reality.

Women who are found to be pur­su­ing Gorean ethos are not pet­ty, or small espe­cial­ly the kaji­ra. A kaji­ra who is based in real­i­ty spends her focus on being owned, and pleas­ing her own­er. She sees noth­ing else. Her behav­ior espe­cial­ly if poor­ly seen would show her own­er to be weak, and weak­ness is sick­en­ing with­in the Philosophy. She would not desire to bring pain, or any sort of dis­plea­sure to her sta­tion or the man she loves.

She is capa­ble and able to kneel as a woman of her sta­tion should. She is not crip­pled and bro­ken, nor is she youth­ful­ly 20 for­ev­er. Her body has pre­pared itself to serve men, and that is just what she does. She isn’t 80 years old seek­ing to pre­tend she is 30, with a heart shaped ass, but make no mis­take she is all woman. She wouldn’t dare to low­er her­self to fight­ing with free women because women work togeth­er to please the men they love regard­less of sta­tion, or sur­ren­der. It is beyond dis­hon­est to argue, and be pet­ty in front of Gorean men, they sim­ply have no time for such worth­less behav­ior. A kaji­ra will do any­thing her Master asks of her, will­ing­ly. Why? Because a kaji­ra has tak­en the time to know who she has sur­ren­dered to. She does not sur­ren­der to sadists, crim­i­nals, liars, thieves, cheats, creeps, and so forth. She sur­ren­ders by her own free will to a man of moral­i­ty, hon­esty, decen­cy, with stand­ing in his com­mu­ni­ty capa­ble of look­ing after her soul, her very being.

“She lift­ed her head, and, extend­ing her slen­der, close­ly col­lared neck, del­i­cately ten­dered the whip into my grasp. I took the whip from her, and she looked at me, fright­ened. Was she now to be whipped? The deci­sion, of course, was mine. I fold­ed the blades of the whip back against the staff, and held out the staff and blades to her. Suddenly, grate­fully, tears in her eyes, sob­bing, and half gasp­ing and chok­ing with relief, kneel­ing before me, grasp­ing my calves, her head over my thighs, she cov­ered the whip, that sym­bol of mas­culin­ity, and of the author­ity of men over her, and specif­i­cally of my own author­ity over her, with kisses.“I kiss your whip, my Master,” she said, grate­fully, con­tin­u­ing to kiss the bru­tal, uncom­pro­mis­ing blades and staff. “I sub­mit to you a thou­sand times! Thank you for not whip­ping me! I am your slave, and I love you!” She then looked up at me, joy­fully. “I love you, my Master,” she said. “I love you!” Then, joy­fully, kneel­ing before me, she put her left cheek down upon my right thigh. “I love you,” she said. “I love you, my Master. Command me,” she begged. “I am eager to serve you. I will do anything.”

Now you know explic­it­ly the dif­fer­ence between a woman who is owned, and a woman who is free. You are able to now look with­in you deeply gals to find which of these women best hold your heart and describe the “you.” Which sta­tion will serve you, and your life to the fullest? These arti­cles, these tools are just that. To guide you to read­ings the books, to under­stand­ing what actions demon­strate each con­sent­ed sta­tion for women with­in the ethos of Gor.

Remember, you must con­cede to read the entire­ty of the series sev­er­al times over to have a capa­ble and full under­stand­ing “less the fic­tion” to make these life choic­es. Utilize your under­stand­ing to move through the many lay­ers in the Philosophy, and dig deep­er than the sto­ries them­selves. You may not choose to be either woman, free or sur­ren­dered after read­ing every­thing and spend­ing your time learn­ing. Perhaps Gorean ethos will not appeal to you, but that you mere­ly vis­it the many friends you may have made through your under­stand­ings or jour­neys. Thats ok too.

This ethos does not require men to own a woman, or women to be owned. This ethos doesn’t require a man to take his life long com­pan­ion, those are sim­ply the con­se­quences of being a Gorean man, you see beau­ti­ful intel­li­gent women both free, and prop­er­ty will desire to be theirs and in effect be at their feet always because of who and what they are. Gor is not hard for Goreans once they under­stand the truths with­in the many lay­ers of this Philosophy, minus the fiction.

 

“To be sure, let us not appear to blame the man of Earth. He labors, usu­al­ly, in a desert of sex­u­al star­va­tion. Some of his most basic phys­i­cal needs are often frus­trated, cru­elly and sys­tem­at­i­cally. In such a world, where he is sel­dom grant­ed more than the appear­ances of women, it is nat­u­ral for him to become, sad­ly, pre­oc­cu­pied with mere appear­ances. Often he knows lit­tle more of women than these appear­ances, with which he is expect­ed, cul­tur­ally, to make do.

“The Gorean, on the oth­er hand, who might buy a woman, or have a love­ly slave in a paga tav­ern for the price of a drink, has lit­tle trou­ble with the sat­is­fac­tion of his basic sex­ual needs. These needs sat­is­fied he can then attend to the latent rich­nesses of the prizes he can command.”

 

“No one sex has a monop­oly on dog­ma­tism.” I looked at her. “If you are inter­est­ed in this sort of thing from the Gorean view­point,” I said, “free men and women are usu­al­ly atten­tive to the thoughts and feel­ings of one anoth­er. Not only are they free, but they may even share a Home Stone. Free women, in being free, com­mand atten­tion when they speak. It is their due. The case with slaves, such as you, my dear, is of course much dif­fer­ent. The dif­fer­ence, how­ev­er, is that respect and atten­tion is not due to you, that it need not be accord­ed to you. You are slave. In actu­al prac­tice, of course, mas­ters tend to pay a great deal of atten­tion to the thoughts and feel­ings of their love­ly slaves. It is reward­ing and deli­cious to do so. How won­der­ful it is to know anoth­er human being so inti­mate­ly, espe­cial­ly one one owns. There are no secrets between mas­ters and slaves.”

 

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